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Oct 202016
 

Which language to speak when in a multilingual family?

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Dear Rita and Multilingual Parenting Team,

First of all, I would like to thank you and the rest of the team for a great website, it has been very useful since I started investigating about multilingual education.

I am sending you our questions because I could not find quite our case in the Q&A section. We are a Spanish-Korean marriage expecting our first child. My native languages are Spanish and Catalan. My wife’s native language is Korean. We both speak very fluent English and we communicate either in English or Spanish, however she is more fluent in English than Spanish. I also speak some Korean.

The community languages are Spanish and Catalan. We are currently living in Barcelona, so our child will attend a bilingual Spanish and Catalan school (with some English lessons as a foreign language), but we would like our child to learn also Korean and English.

We think that the OPOL approach is the best that work for us, my wife speaking Korean and myself speaking English, but some questions arise:

Not being a native English speaker can it have a negative effect (perhaps some grammar mistakes but specially pronunciation not being native) on acquiring English as a third language?

Following the OPOL approach, my wife speaking Korean and myself English (given the above doesn´t have a negative impact), what language should we speak when we are the three of us or communicate to each other in front of our child? How about with friends of family? Should we use the same OPOL approach or perhaps switch to an agreed language?

Thank you very much for you reply and we look forward to hearing from you.

Warm regards,
Raúl

Answer

Dear Raúl,

On behalf of our team, let me thank you for your question and your kind feedback.

What a wonderful language-rich environment your little baby is fortunate to grow up in! Since you will have a very strong support for both Spanish and Catalan at school and in the community, I can understand why you are considering using a one parent, one language (OPOL) approach with two minority languages, Korean and English.

As you mention, for your child to learn Korean it is vital that your wife uses her native language with the child as much as possible. It is great that you already know some Korean (and you will learn more alongside your baby), because this means that your wife does not have to be concerned about you not understanding what she speaks with the baby. Remember to ask, when you want to know the meaning of a word or a phrase!

Since English is the main common language between the two of you and you both consider yourself being fluent in it, it is perfectly fine to choose it as an additional language for your child. Since you already speak the language with your wife, it means that you are used to communicating in English and it has probably also become one of your emotional languages, i.e. it is easy for you to express your feelings in it. As English is not your native language, I would like you to consider the decision carefully – not so much because of possibly passing on an accent, slightly different pronunciation or the odd grammatical error, but for how you will feel about not speaking a non-native language with your child. Read this article for things to take into consideration when deciding to speak a non-native language with your child.

Presuming you do go ahead and speak English with your little one, you will be his or her main source of English exposure. You are right in that your child will pick up any of your deviations from standard English – unless he or she also gets the chance to spend time and interact with native English speakers. This is however in my mind not a reason for not speaking English with your child. He or she will have plenty of time to improve the already acquired English-skills later on, should there be a need to do so. After a few years you can also start watching cartoons and films together in English to help with the pronunciation.

Then we come to the question about the common language. As your Korean is limited the choice is between Spanish and English. From what I understand, your wife prefers English, so this is probably the language you will end up choosing as the family language, which you would also speak with each other in front of your child. Your wife should ideally always switch to Korean when she speaks directly with him or her, as Korean is the language that there will be less exposure to as soon as your child starts nursery or school.

What you speak as a common language when someone else is around, will very much depend on the company. Switching to Spanish would probably be the natural thing to do around your family and local friends and this is fine. However, whenever you speak directly with your child, I would still stick to either Korean or English. Your baby will inevitably learn some Spanish (or Catalan) as well – from other members of the family and children, from media and from the community in general. He or she will get used to switching between languages and will not find it odd and it will not be confusing!

Wishing you a successful multilingual family journey!

Kind regards
Rita

Rita Rosenback

  Rita Rosenback Rita is an author, Family Language Coach, blogger and speaker, who was born into a bilingual family on the Swedish-speaking west coast of Finland. After studying languages in Finland and Germany she worked as a university teacher, translator, interpreter and manager of multinational teams. Rita is now a full-time writer and coach and has been living in the U.K. since 1998. Rita is the mother of two grown-up multilingual daughters, who are the inspiration for her book: “Bringing up a Bilingual Child”, an easy-to-read guide for parents, where she navigates the reader across the “Seven Cs of Multilingual Parenting: Communication, Confidence, Commitment, Consistency, Creativity, Culture and Celebration”. Currently English and Swedish are Rita’s main languages, but she instantly switches to Finnish or German or to her Finland-Swedish dialect when the opportunity presents itself (and when push comes to shove, she can communicate in a very basic Punjabi). Rita is the creator and driving force of this website, and she gives talks and holds workshops for parents and teachers on the topic of bilingual children. She also coaches families on how to make the most of their languages and raise their children to become confident speakers of the chosen languages. Facebooktwittergoogle_pluspinterestlinkedin

  One Response to “Q&A: Which language to speak when in a multilingual family?”

  1. Children hearing their parents speaking English together absorb a lot of the language,so from my own experience bringing a child up in Barcelona I would be more inclined to suggest that Raúl speak Spanish to his child to guarantee a high level of “castellano”. The reason I suggest it is that in most cases there is far more Catalan than Spanish in a child’s life outside the home, since schooling is generally in Catalan (with a couple of hours English and a couple of hours Spanish), as well as all kids’ activities organised in libraries, museums, sports centres etc being in Catalan and the kids programming on TV too. In fact that’s basically the way my son learnt Catalan since he had OPOL Spanish/English and schooling in German (with a couple of lessons in Catalan a week).
    Outside Barcelona metropolitan area in fact you may hear very little Spanish being spoken and in Barcelona it is about 50/50, so it will depend on Raúl’s own family which language they use together (some families use both, some prefer just one). I once had a student who told me he spoke Spanish to his older daughters and Catalan to the youngest! This was in 1990 and I think related to which language the girls’ schooling had been in.
    I have a French friend with an American husband whose daughter has been attending public schooling, in Catalan, with OPOL English/French at home. She has just changed schools and started an IB programme, which unfortunately will not be in English as they had been lead to expect it would be and my friend commented that this will be hard for her daughter as Spanish was the weakest of her 4 languages (She is linguistically gifted so I am sure she will manage, but it does highlight the linguistic situation).

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