How to motivate a bilingual/multilingual child to speak a family language

One of the biggest challenges parents of bilingual children encounter is finding ways to motivate their children to speak the family’s minority language. Children are pragmatic, so they use the language they feel most comfortable with. When they realize that they can choose their language and still be understood, they often pick their strongest language if they know that the other person understands it. This is when parents should find ways to motivate children to use the family language, to make sure that the child maintains and develops his or her multilingual skills. For a child to choose to speak a language, the child must WANT and NEED to use it. The motivators differ depending on the age, personality, and fluency of the child. These motivators can and do occur naturally, but parents have the possibility to create or enhance these motivators for their children to encourage them to speak a family language

Q&A: How to introduce a family language to older children?

Q&A: How to introduce a family language to older children?

  Question Hello! Thank you for the helpful articles! My husband’s mother is Finnish, and all her family is living in Finland or other parts or Europe. Fortunately, they all speak English well so we all can communicate well. However, my parents are Korean...

Q&A: How to convince a 3-year-old to answer in the minority language?

Q&A: How to convince a 3-year-old to answer in the minority language?

  Question Hello I'm British, living in France for the past 13 years. I speak French to my French husband, and we have two girls, a 3-year-old and a new-born. Our 3-year-old was a late speaker (first words at 17 months) and I am the only person who speaks English...

Q&A: How to help a small bilingual child with the community language?

Q&A: How to help a small bilingual child with the community language?

  Question Hi! I am worried about my daughter who is three and a half years old. She was born in Sweden, but I raise her by myself and we speak only Dutch at our home. Her Dutch is fluent, and she has been very talkative for a long time, she speaks in long fluent...

The trilingual+ child

When a child grows up with three or more languages the challenges can be more pronounced than when only two languages are involved. For example, how to adapt the family language strategy when circumstances change and a third or fourth language is added? The solutions that work well for bilingual families, such as using the one person, one language family language strategy, are not straight-forward to apply if a child grows up in a multilingual environment. Nevertheless, children do grow up to successfully speak three, four, or even more languages. It can be done.

Choosing the right family language strategy

Why do parents need a strategy to make sure the children grow up speaking the family languages? After all, kids grow up learning more than one language all over the world all the time. This is of course true. If the circumstances are right, children will naturally grow up learning the languages they hear around them. The trick is knowing what the right circumstances are and being able to intervene if it looks like there is not enough input in a language or a majority language is about to take over. A child should want and need to speak a language, and there should be plenty of opportunities to use it. Parents should feel confident in their ability to pass on their language and believe that it is possible to successfully raise children to speak more than one language.

Q&A: How to prioritise family languages and raise a trilingual child?

Q&A: How to prioritise family languages and raise a trilingual child?

  Question Hi, I would like some advice about how to raise our daughter speaking multiple languages. She is only five weeks old but I think we should work out what we're doing now. We live in an English-speaking country. I am English but also fluent in Spanish...

When a bilingual/multilingual child goes to school

A crucial point in a bilingual child’s life is when they start attending nursery or school in the majority language. At this stage, there is a tendency for the school language to take over and become the child’s dominant language. The child may start to use less of the family language and may even stop responding to it. Because this is such an important phase, it is important that parents know how to prepare for it and how to tackle the potential challenges. However, the nursery or school choice can also be a supporting factor for a child’s multilingual language development.

Being the parent in a multilingual family

Some things parents of bilingual children experience seem to be universal. As a parent of a bilingual or multilingual child, you become more aware of your native language and you may also consciously try to improve your own skills. In today’s world, there is an infinite number of things parents can potentially worry about or feel pressure for. Adding another language to that brings a new dimension to parenthood. You have to ensure that your child gets enough exposure to all languages and be on a constant look-out for language resources. To make up for the lack of materials, you probably end up being more creative than you thought you would ever be.

Q&A: Should parents raising bilingual children avoid code-switching?

Q&A: Should parents raising bilingual children avoid code-switching?

  Question Hello, My name is Benedicte, and my husband and I are expecting a baby boy in the next few weeks. We live in France and are both bilingual French-English. My husband was raised by an American father and French mother. I was raised by French-speaking...

Moving to another country with a bilingual/multilingual child

A crucial point in a bilingual child’s life is when they start attending nursery or school in the majority language. At this stage, there is a tendency for the school language to take over and become the child’s dominant language. The child may start to use less of the family language and may even stop responding to it. Because this is such an important phase, it is important that parents know how to prepare for it and how to tackle the potential challenges. However, the nursery or school choice can also be a supporting factor for a child’s multilingual language development.

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